A young friend of mine was starting
his first important job, a position with the potential to help him begin a
solid career. He asked me what one crucial professional tip I could give him to
ensure a happy worry-free work environment. I told him the one crucial tip I
would give him had two parts: First, be careful what you say; second, be
careful to whom you say it. In other words, don’t gossip! That is
professionalism and that advice will make for a much happier work place.
Nothing impacts your happiness
quotient more adversely than being in a job environment where you are miserable
for over 8 hours a day five days a week. The daily demands of a position that
may or may not be your dream job are difficult enough; being in a hostile
environment can make it 100 times worse.
Gossip in all workplaces is,
unfortunately, something that you can’t entirely avoid. You will hear all kinds
of things said about the people who work there, some true, some not. Making a
personal decision not to repeat what you hear not only makes you a nicer person,
it can make where you work a more pleasant place to be. Being seen as someone
who is isn’t part of the gossip mill has its own rewards. It adds to your aura
of professionalism.
The same advice is true if a
co-worker vents to you about your mutual boss and asks your opinion, fully
expecting you to agree. Be careful. If
someone, in anger, makes cutting remarks about a supervisor, your best bet is
to say nothing. As much as you may feel that the boss truly is an idiot with an
ego the size of Cleveland never, ever, say that. You have no way of knowing if
your words will reach the ears of a third party who may just mention what you
said to Mr./Ms. Cleveland-Ego. If you don’t get outright fired your work life
will become very unpleasant to say the least.
The same advice about gossiping in
the office holds true outside the workplace. No matter how much you may want to
join in during a ‘dissing’ session about a co-worker or boss at lunch or after
hours, don’t. Remember that words cannot be taken back. Once they’re out there,
they are remembered, sometimes embellished, and have a way of coming back to
haunt you at the most inopportune times. Words are weapons too.
Think about what harm you might be
doing to your career or even to a much-needed temporary job. You should also be
aware that if you intend to stay in the same field, information about you, good
as well as bad, travels very easily by word of mouth, texting, emails, and even
video conferences. When you are careful of what you say, and to whom you say it,
you are practicing a self-preservation mechanism that will make your professional
life an easier and happier one.
A wonderful example of
professionalism in a competitive market is Diane Sawyer. She was successful not
only for her expertise in the field of journalism but also because she was
known as someone who could be counted on to be discreet. In other words, she
never stooped to gossiping.
On your road to personal happiness in job security and career advancement, it pays big dividends to make the path as smooth as possible and avoid creating unnecessary potholes. Avoid gossip.
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